Thursday, December 27, 2012

What to say to a patient after a miscarriage?


What do we say to a patient after a miscarriage?
  1. You didn't do anything to cause this miscarriage...
  2. You didn't do anything to cause this miscarriage...
  3. You didn't do anything to cause this miscarriage...
Then...

Listen and weep with the patient.

(Or something like that)

4 comments:

Marie King said...

My heart goes out anyone who has lost a child in any capacity. My best friend and my sister-in-law each have miscarried multiple times and my heart breaks for them because all they've ever wanted was to have a baby and be mothers. Each time it happened, I always fought to find the words to comfort them, until one of my friends told me about a book to get them. It's called "There Was Supposed To Be a Baby" by Catherine Keating, you can check her and the book on the website http://therewassupposedtobe.com/. I've given this book to each of them as a gift and both have said what a wonderful book and comfort it was to them. Thank you for this post, and may anyone who has lost find peace!

David Koo said...

Marie, thank you so much for the book suggestion! I'll definitely take a look at it. It sounds like a great resource to have in the office for my patients (and me).

Dr Mari said...

Great post, Dr. Koo. I remember every time I've cried with a patient ... and it's always helped (and brought healing to) both of us.

I enjoyed your talk on dizziness, even if I left a bit wobbly from the psychedelic slide you shared, which should have been preceded by a warning! ;)

Kelsey Compars said...

I couldn't imagine having a miscarriage. As a women, if i went through this I would prefer to receive support from a family clinic. There is something to be said for familiarity.

http://www.southerncoloradoclinic.com/patient-portal.html

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